(Explaining this because some people look at me funny when I talk about going to the drive-thru). Its safer to assume, fairly or not, that they will react poorly and plan accordingly, especially when it could be your job on the linethey could complain about you to the manager or yell at you and even turn out to be a creepy stalker. In Ohio, we have drive-thrus where you can literally drive through and buy beer, cigarettes, pop, etc. It seems pointless to overthink when the answer is either yes or no. (disclaimer, Ive never worked any customer-facing position, so maybe Im way off). - This is a **positive community**. Your best hope here is to have a random encounter with her in a more social setting like a bar, where it is a lot more socially acceptable to offer someone a drink/phone number if they indicate an interest in you. I agree that the group thing could be a good, low-pressure way to go. It is important to accept any possible rejection gracefully and stay positive. And Id probably be sure to check in on Swarm so thered be a record of it. Some people may have good intentions and be okay with a rejection, but there are a lot of men who arent and turn vicious if theyre ignored or rejected. I actually thought the OP might be a man. And there was no pressing and he never followed up when I didnt call. It was so non-creepy that I didnt even realize it was a request for a date until the end of the day. Some were creepy. The OP only seemed receptive to posts encouraging her to do it though. Something short and simple and easy for both of you. Yeptrue creeps are spreading it around as much as they can. Right, this proscription would mean nobody in college would ever go to a party. What people are saying, is to be aware of the power differential, be aware that the person you are asking out may be in a situation where their behavior is constrained, be considerate of the other persons situation, dont take advantage. It did not go well. -he remembered her each time, knew and remembered details about her (where she worked, what her schedule was like, her name), etc. Look, retail employees get hit on day in and day out. I did think your point about women being discouraged from asking men out was really interesting. Dudes dont have to be horny to ask a girl out brodette. Truly cringeworthy, I had to stop after 5 minutes. I usually just tried to be extra nice and funny about it without bringing in the orientation thing, then went on with the rest of my day. It is so awkward for the person behind the counter on so many levels, and honestly, if it were me back when I was working retail Id be terrified that if I said no, youd do something to get me written up or contact the district manager to get me fired. That sounds very reasonable to me. Aaaaaand now my friend is no longer a regular at that brunch place. Once you have built up enough confidence and prepared your words, it is time to take action. Whoa, is Missed Connections still a thing? She was very nice, but I didnt get the vibe she was interested in him as well she seemed to just be doing her job as being accommodating. Theres no reason to be too embarrassed to ever return upon rejection unless youre either serenading the guy in a public show, or if you be otherwise dramatic or persistent about it. Meeting someone at a party (or going to a movie, while were on the topic) are not especially good first dates when youre attempting to get to know someone better.

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